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Help for Couples Who Argue About Sleep Temperature

ChiliSleep Staff


How couples argue about sleep temperature

Do you have trouble sleeping at night? Do you argue about the room temperature? Are you having a difficult time finding the ideal sleep temperature? You’re not alone.

A study by The Better Sleep Council found that approximately 85% of people report having problems falling asleep when it’s time for bed, women more so than men.

Disagree About Sleep Temperature?

Our sleep systems offers dual-side temperature zones, so you and your partner can comfortably choose your preferred sleep temperature, without affecting the other person ranging from 55-115ºF.

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Couples and Sleep Temperature

Studies show that 43% of couples disagree on their sleep temperature, a problem with an easier solution than you might think. There is help for couples who disagree about sleep temperature. But, first, we need to look at “what is the best sleep temperature?”  

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Thermostat Wars

Coupled? Married? Do you sleep hot and they sleep cold? We've got you covered. 

Couples Sleep Statistics

Do you argue about the room temperature? You're not alone.

  • 40% complain about the partner taking all the covers.
  • 80% of couples managed to resolve their sleep related arguments.
  • 34% said that one partner wanted a fan running while sleeping.
  • 51% of couples have changed the thermostat while their partner was sleeping.
  • 14% of couples disagree on room temperature because of utility costs.

What is the Ideal Sleep Temperature

What is the ideal room temperature for sleeping? Well, some say that the room temperature for the best sleep is between 60 and 68 degrees.  But, let’s say you prefer to sleep at warmer temperatures while your partner prefers to sleep cooler at night. Most sleep experts agree that room temperature can play a role in sleep quality.

What some may not know is that there are products on the market that can help create an amicable sleeping environment, while also saving you money in the long run.

How to Find Comfortable Sleep Temperature?

The bottom line is that there is problem-solving to do for couples with fundamental differences in temperature preference. If it’s too hot to sleep with your partner, we can help! 

OOLER Sleep System:

Our state-of-the-art hydro-powered sleep system allows you to schedule different temperatures, ranging from 55-115°F / 13-46°C, throughout the night so you can get your best sleep possible. This  cooling mattress pad fits any bed.

  • Pre-set your sleep schedule throughout the night with our mobile app

Cube Sleep System:

Our easy-to-use hydro-powered sleep system ranges from 55-115°F / 13-46°C allowing you to sleep at your ideal temperature all night long. 

Both mattress pad comes with a dual-zone control system, so you and your partner can comfortably choose your preferred sleep temperature, without affecting the other person.  This can allow you to sleep cool in the summer and warmer in the winter.

Dual Sided Temperature Control Mattress Pad

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Common Sleep Factors

While there are a variety of sleep factors that can cause this problem including money worries, stress, problems in the workplace, etc. What if you’re sharing the bed with a significant other? Some claim that they have trouble sleeping with another individual because they are disrupted by the other’s restlessness and ideal temperature for sleep. 

If you’re having the same issue with your significant other, there are a variety of creative strategies that you can implement to make your slumber together more peaceful.

Recently, more couples are claiming to be happier with what can be commonly referred to as “sleep divorce”.

In other words, sleeping in separate beds, even separate rooms from your partner. About 30-40% of couples have tried sleeping in separate beds to make their sleep more restful. While the nickname for this phenomenon sounds more ominous than it actually is for some couples, when you’re sleeping separately, you could also be missing out on some awesome health benefits.

"63% of couples sleep most of the night separated"

Benefits of Sleeping Together

Scientists have found that sleeping with your partner could be a reason why people who are involved in close relationships tend to be healthier and live longer compared to those who are single or are not in a long-term relationship.

Studies have shown that sleeping with your partner and creating that sense of closeness and security improves your health in a variety of ways.

Sense of Security

Not only does it help reduce your cortisol levels, otherwise known as your stress hormone, it can also boost oxytocin levels, which helps ease anxiety and reduce cytokines, which can cause inflammation. Dr. Troxel, an assistant professor of psychiatry and psychology at the University of Pittsburgh, states, "the psychological benefits we get having closeness at night trump the objective costs of sleeping with a partner”.

Makes You Happier

Sleeping in the same bed as your partner makes you feel happier. Your body releases dopamine (the chemical responsible for feeling pleasure) and serotonin. The serotonin improves your mood and makes you laugh. 

Study: Couples who were sleeping together allowed them to spend longer in REM sleep, with fewer REM cycle interruptions.

So if you’re having issues falling asleep with your partner by your side, how do you make sleeping together easier? In general, try improving your personal sleep habits before bed- don’t eat huge meals close to bedtime, and shut down electronics about an hour before you fall asleep.

If these are rules that you already follow to help yourself fall asleep but you are still having issues, your main problem might lie somewhere else (pun intended).

If you both agree on sleep temperature, the cooling bed systems also have the potential to save money. Using the same amount of energy as one light bulb, you won’t have to worry about outrageous heating or cooling bills while you try to find your perfect temperature!

We feel that it’s important to invest in your rest, and with our products, we are dedicated to helping you get your best sleep yet.

There’s only one thing that should keep couples up at night, and it isn’t arguing over bed temperature.  

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